It is common for a new cat — especially a rescue — to vanish under the bed and stay there. This is normal feline coping, not a sign that something is wrong or that the cat dislikes you. Trust is built slowly, on the cat's terms.
Let them hide
Do not drag a frightened cat out of hiding; it destroys trust. Instead, make sure their safe room has food, water, a litter tray and a hiding spot they can choose. Let them retreat and come out when the house is quiet.
Build trust gradually
- Spend time sitting calmly in the room, reading or talking softly, without reaching for the cat.
- Offer treats or play with a wand toy from a non-threatening distance.
- Use slow blinks — a feline signal for ‘I mean no harm’ — and let the cat approach you.
- Keep routines predictable so the cat learns what to expect.
Be patient
Some cats relax in days, others take weeks. Signs of progress include eating in your presence, exploring more, and approaching for attention. If a cat stays completely shut down, off its food, or shows no improvement over a couple of weeks, check with your vet to rule out illness and ask about calming aids.
